The Trustee’s Burden: Power, Prudence and Personal Judgement

Being named trustee is often seen as an honour.

It is also a responsibility that can feel heavier than many expect.

On paper, trustees hold authority.
In practice, many carry quiet uncertainty.

Because while the legal framework is well defined, the human reality rarely is.

Legal Duties Are Clear. Life Is Not.

Trust legislation sets out fiduciary duties with precision. Trustees must act in good faith, avoid conflicts of interest and invest prudently under what is commonly known as the prudent investor principle.

Those standards are clear.

What is far less clear is how they apply when real life begins to test the edges of the document.

Should income be distributed when a beneficiary is under financial pressure but the trust was designed for long-term preservation?
Should capital be protected even as inflation steadily erodes its real value?
How do you balance compassion in the moment with discipline for the future?

These are not purely legal questions.

They are questions of judgement. And judgement is where many trustees begin to feel the weight of the role.

When Families Change

Every estate plan is created at a point in time.

Families, however, do not stand still.

Second relationships form.
Businesses succeed or fail.
Health changes.
Children grow into very different adults than anyone once imagined.

Over time, the trustee is left managing a structure that was carefully drafted for a family that no longer quite exists in the same form.

This is where the role quietly shifts from administrative to deeply interpretive.

And that shift can feel isolating.

The Emotional Weight Few Discuss

In conversations with clients, one theme surfaces repeatedly.

Trustees often hesitate.

Not because they lack intelligence.
Not because they lack integrity.
But because they understand that every decision carries relational consequences.

They worry about appearing unfair.
They worry about triggering conflict.
They worry about getting it wrong.

So sometimes decisions are delayed.
Difficult conversations are postponed.
Distributions are made conservatively “for now.”

It feels prudent in the moment.

But long-term research into intergenerational wealth shows a consistent pattern: when communication becomes cautious and decision-making becomes passive, value often begins to erode quietly in the background.

Avoidance reduces tension today.

Clarity protects outcomes tomorrow.

Stewardship Requires Intention

The trustee’s role was never meant to be purely administrative.

At its best, it is an active stewardship role that involves:

Understanding the original purpose of the trust
Aligning investment strategy with that purpose
Reviewing decisions as circumstances evolve
Communicating openly and early with beneficiaries

Without this level of intention, even well-meaning trustees can find themselves reacting to events rather than guiding the structure forward.

And over time, reactivity almost always introduces drift.

Looking Ahead

In the final article of this series, I will explore that drift more closely.

Because significant inheritances rarely disappear in one dramatic decision.

More often, the erosion is subtle.

It shows up through delayed reviews.
Through cautious but uncoordinated distributions.
Through conversations that feel easier to postpone than to begin.

Left unchecked, these small moments compound.

And by the time the impact becomes visible, the room to adjust may already be narrower than anyone expected.

A Final Thought

If you are acting as trustee and find yourself second-guessing whether your decisions truly reflect the trust’s intent, that uncertainty is worth addressing sooner rather than later.

I offer a 20-minute complimentary session to help bring structure, clarity and confidence to the responsibility you carry.

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